This year I'm planning to take more time to myself. To be selfish and do what I want. Not what I think I should be doing. Not what other people think I should be doing but what I want. Lower my expectations of myself and just let me be me. Here are ways I want to be more ME in 2012.
Use my ME time more wisely. Stop doing things I don’t want to do or feel obligated to. I belong to several clubs that I don’t really love and have decided that I won’t renew my membership. The obligations are not much but it doesn’t make sense for me to commit to something when I don’t really want to be doing it. If I don’t want to watch tv, then don’t. It’s not quality time to sit next to my dear husband and watch in silence and then think of all the things I could be doing. I could use that time to make a phone call or be a better self.
Be a better recycler. We throw a lot of things out that should be recycled. I confess sometimes it is easier to throw it away than to rinse and recycle. Stop making excuses, this is a very easy way to make a small difference in the world my son lives in.
Drink more tea. Try two new teas each month to find a few that I really like. Enjoy them in the afternoon or after dinner in place of wine or beer. Appreciate the process, the smell, the warmth of a cup of tea.
Date night in. Two times a month (once when I cook and once when Dave cooks), eat dinner after Nolan goes to bed. While I know having a family meal is important I also know that eating a leisurely meal while speaking to your spouse is equally important.
Stop keeping score. I am terrible about keeping track of who took out the garbage, emptied the dishwasher, changed the toilet paper, etc. Then I get mad and resentful for the score being uneven, even if I’m a bad scorekeeper. Things need to be done. Just do it. If I need help, ask and be specific about what I want and in what time frame.
Take it easier on myself. Treat myself better. We are all our worse critics. I am terrible. I take a yoga class in a room with mirrors and criticize my body the entire class. I put so much effort into thinking about the ‘right’ thing to do I have trouble just being me. Silence my inner critic and treat myself to things that I will appreciate. I enjoy pedicures but not as much as a yoga class. Take the yoga class and paint my own toes. Relax my conscience about what Nolan should be eating and just let him enjoy food.